This week has just been nice again. I love having nice smiley times with Tony and just spending more time getting to know eachother. I have had a couple of dips in my mood but that is only to be expected really.
The other night, i ended up feeling really sad. Well, at first i thought it was some sort of sadness but only because it was a feeling i wasn't used to. I spoke to Tony in the end and came to the conclusion that i was just overwhelmed. I am so used to this inner voice constantly criticising me and belittling me. Now that i am getting all this attention from Tony and constantly being told lovely things, i am just finding it really difficult to be around the compliments and stuff. I don't believe any of them but i also don't want to be pissing anybody off. There is nothing more annoying than constantly fighting compliments and stuff, especially in relationships and i am really hypersensitive to this.
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| Tony looking really rather out of it lol |
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| My beautiful baby sister. |
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| My new ring :) |
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| My new ring which really is much too beautiful. |
That ring is just beautiful :)
ReplyDeleteAlso - I am the same with compliments. Exactly the same, but I'm learning how to deal with that. What helps me is to firstly think that you actually don't HAVE to agree with what's been said. Just say 'thank you' and that's that.. You might not mean thank you, you might not agree therefore you don't want to thank the person. BUT just say it, just the words, even if there is no feeling behind them. At least then, you're verbally on the way to being more able to accept lovely things being said to you.
I know it's so difficult. But if you think of times when you've complimented someone and they immediately put up defenses.. It kind of puts a brick wall in the middle of the relationship and it puts you off being so lovely to that person again, purely because the nice things you say don't seem to be acknowledged. So maybe think of it in that way as well.
If you say 'thank you' enough - you're not only simply thanking the person for being lovely, but you are taking the first step in being able to honestly and genuinely feel grateful for being noticed.
Sorry this has been a kind of long piece of writing, I hope I have helped in some way x
Ooh good advice tanman. Thanks for that
ReplyDeleteA lot of what you said made perfect sense.
I did get to a point where I could accept compliment and your comment has reminded me of how I got there
I'm going to give this a try!
Tanman said basically everything I was gonna say but put it into better wordage haha
ReplyDeletelove youuuuuuuuuuuur face :) xxxxx
It seems like I'm reading something that has been written to myself.. and it makes total sense!
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